The Better Side of Life

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Life. It can be downright hard but it can simply beautiful. Life can be depressing and difficult or it can be fun and enlightening. It really all depends on how a person perceives it. It was once said that the difference between an individual who is successful and a person who won’t achieve the goals and desires of their life…is simply how they deal with circumstances that they experience. They can either learn from a negative experience and grow…or wallow in self-pity and disappointment and never make their life better.

Life is a peculiar thing…everything in it has two sides. How you choose to perceive and manage each event will affect the direction of your life.

This leads me to the following little reminder that I thought would give you “food for thought” when thinking about the virtues of life.

HATE has four letters…so does LOVE

ENEMIES has seven letters…so does FRIENDS

NEGATIVE has eight…so does POSITIVE

UNDER has five…so does ABOVE

CRY has three letters…so does JOY

ANGER has five letters…so does HAPPY

RIGHT has five letters…so does WRONG

HURT has four letters…so does HEAL

It means that Life is like a double-edged sword…..

so transform every negative side into an aura of positivity…



The Importance of Self-Confidence

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Self-confidence and a strong belief in oneself and the things that you can achieve is a strong trait that an individual can have. When a person has a good self-image, they find that they can not only accomplish their goals but they can achieve things far and above anything that they ever imagined. In other words, sometimes a person who possess a high level of self-confidence, can discover something within themselves that they might not have thought never existed.

Today’s story is a great illustration of this power of self-confidence.

One of the greatest violinists of all time was named Niccolo Paganini. He was born in 1782 and he enjoyed a well-known and memorable career before his death in 1840.

One day as Paganini was about to perform before a packed opera house, he suddenly discovered that he had walked out on stage with the wrong violin. What he was holding was not his valued instrument but one that belonged to someone else.  His cherished violin was made by the master violin maker, Guarneri.

Paganini was horrified and panic-stricken but knowing that he had no other choice, he began to play with all of the skill that he possessed. Everyone agreed, after the performance, that he had given a performance of a lifetime. When he finished his concert, the audience gave him a standing ovation.

After the concert, in his dressing room, he was praised and commended for his marvelous performance, Paganini replied, ” Today, I learned the most important lesson in my entire career. Before today, I thought the music was in my violin but today I learned that the music is in me.”




Monkey See. Monkey Do. The Great Monkey Experiment

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Photo Credit: Marie Hale via CC Flickr

The following short story is supposedly a true tale of an experiment that was done in the UK a few years ago. I read of the account on It serves as a great illustration and reminder as to why we should not judge other people or get involved in a cause without knowing the true account behind it….why it started…how it began….etc. We all need to be very careful and think twice before following a tradition, religion or a system blindly. 


The experiment went something like this:

The clinicians put eight monkeys in a room. In the middle of the room was a ladder which lead to a bunch of bananas hanging from a hook on the ceiling.

Each time a monkey tried to climb the ladder, all of the other monkeys were sprayed with ice water, which makes them miserable. Soon enough, whenever a monkey attempts to climb the ladder, all of the other monkeys, not wanting to be sprayed, set upon him and beat him up.

Soon, none of the eight monkeys ever attempted to climb the ladder.

One of the original monkeys was then removed, and a new monkey was put in the room. Seeing the bananas and the ladder, he wondered why none of the other monkeys were doing the obvious and going for the delicious fruit. Undaunted, he immediately began to climb the ladder.

Suddenly, all the other monkeys fell upon him and beat him silly. He had no idea why.

However, he no longer attempted to climb the ladder.

A second original monkey was removed and replaced. The newcomer again attempted to climb the ladder, but all the other monkeys again, pounded the crap out of him.

This beating included the previous new monkey, who was grateful that he wasn’t not on the receiving end this time. He participated in the beating because all the other monkeys were doing it. However, he had no idea why he was attacking the new monkey.

One by one, all the original monkeys were replaced. Eight new monkeys are now in the room. None of them were ever sprayed by ice water. None of them attempted to climb the ladder. All of them enthusiastically beat up any new monkey who tried to get to the bananas, without having any idea why.

That is how traditions, religions and systems get established and followed. That is why, like I previously stated, that we should all be cautious when we become interested in joining a tradition, religion or cause. We don’t want to fall into the trap of doing things “just because” everyone else does it or, “it was always done this way.” While the old motto, “Monkey see…monkey do” can be somewhat true, we need to be careful of what kind of  ”monkeys” we become.

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