Why Complicate Life?

Photo Credit: Andrew Siguenza via Flickr

Photo Credit: Andrew Siguenza via Flickr

Here are some fantastic concepts that we ALL can use throughout our lives…

Missing Somebody?          …..Call

Wanna Meet Up?              …..Invite

Wanna Be Understood?   …..Explain

Have Questions?              …..Ask

Don’t Like Something?      …..Say It

Like Something?                …..State It

Want Something?              ….Ask For It

Love Someone?                …..Tell Them!

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WE JUST HAVE ONE LIFE, KEEP IT SIMPLE.

The Story of the Carrots, Eggs, and Coffee

Photo Credits: (All via Flickr): Coffee: Nate Steiner Carrots: John Morgan Eggs: Alisha Vargas

Photo Credits: (All via Flickr):
Coffee: Nate Steiner
Carrots: John Morgan
Eggs: Alisha Vargas

Adversity in our lives affects everyone in different ways. While some people may act a certain way in a situation, another individual may react to the same situation. Through these times of trials and hardships, people can either grown and become stronger or they can become depressed and fall into a pit of despair.

The short story in today’s blog gives us a great illustration of the kinds of people that not only deal with life’s difficulties and hardships, but also, of what they can become.

A certain daughter complained to her father about her life and how things have been so hard for her. She did not how she was going to make it and she wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed that just as one problem was solved another arose.

Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen, filled three pots with water and placed the fire on high. Soon the three pots came to a boil. In one he placed carrots, in the other he placed eggs, and the last he placed ground coffee beans. He let them sit and boil, without saying a word. The daughter sucked her teeth and impatiently wondered what he was trying to do. She had problems, and he was making this strange concoction.

A half hour later he walked over to the oven and turned down the fire. He pulled the carrots out and placed them in the bowl. He pulled the eggs out and placed them in the bowl. Then he ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her he asked. “Darling what do you see?”

Smartly, she replied. “Carrots, eggs, and coffee.”

He brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. He then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee. Her face frowned from the strength of the coffee. Humbly, she asked. “What does it mean Father?”

He explained. Each of them faced the same adversity, 212 degrees of boiling water. However each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. But after going through boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg was fragile. A thin outer shell protected a liquid center. But after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The coffee beans are unique however. After they were in the boiling water, it became stronger and richer.

“Which are you?” he asked his daughter.

When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?

Are you the carrot that seems hard, but with the smallest amount of pain, adversity or heat, you wilt and become soft with no strength.

Are you the egg, which starts off with a malleable heart? A fluid spirit.
But after a , a breakup, a divorce, a layoff you became hardened and stiff. Your shell looks the same, but you are so bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and heart, internally.

Or are you like the coffee bean? The bean does not get its peak flavor and robust until it reaches 212 degrees Fahrenheit. When the water gets the hottest, it just tastes better.

When things are at their worst, you get better. . . When people talk the most, your praises increase. . . When the hour is the darkest, trials are there greatest, your worship elevates to another level.

How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?

Things We Need to Teach Our Daughters (and Sons)

MonkeyAs parents, there isn’t anything more precious in the world to us as our children. One of the most important things that we should teach our children (and encourage them to use) is wisdom…the ability to differentiate between good and bad, etc.

I recently came across some great “words of wisdom” that I thought that would be good to share for everyone who is a parent (or who will be someday). These are principles that we need to teach our daughters to know the difference between…

a man who flatters her and a man who compliments her

a man who spends money on her and a man who invests in her

a man who views her as property and a man who views her properly

a man who lusts after her and a man who loves her

a man who believes he’s a gift to women, and a man who believes she’s a gift to him

And then we need to teach our sons to be that kind of man!!

 

 

 

This Can’t Be Good…

Everyone loves to go on vacations…

To Have fun…

See the sights…

Spend time with each other…

and take family photos.

But I don’t think it’s a good idea to play Frisbee with the family dog while taking a family picture at the Grand Canyon.

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Last Dance

There is nothing more beautiful in the world than the relationship between a daughter and her father. This video will touch your heart in a special way and make you realize the how special and wonderful a relationship between a parent and their children should be. We should all value the time that we have with our parents and appreciate everything that they do for us before our gift of time ends. Please note….tissues may be required!

The Giggle of the Week #12

A little while ago, a group of Joliet, Illinois bikers were riding west on I-74 when they saw a girl about to jump off the Murray Baker Bridge. So they stopped.

George, their leader, a big burly man of 53, gets off his Harley, walks through a group of gawkers, past the State Trooper, and says, “What are you doing?”

She says, “I’m going to commit suicide.”

While he didn’t want to appear “sensitive,” he didn’t want to miss a be-a-legend opportunity either so he asked … “Well, before you jump, why don’t you give me a kiss?”

So, with no hesitation at all, she leaned back over the railing and did just that … and it was a long, deep, lingering kiss followed immediately by another one.

After they finished, George gets approval from his biker-buddies, the onlookers, and even the State Trooper, and says, “Wow! That was the best kiss I have ever had Honey! That’s a real talent you’re wasting Sugar Shorts. You could be famous if you rode with me. Why are you committing suicide?”

“My parents don’t like me dressing up like a girl.”

It’s still unclear whether she jumped or was pushed…

A Sign From God

There are millions of people around the world who look for a sign from God.

Well, today, I have great news!

Yesterday I found a sign from God that I thought would be nice to share with you!

So, without further adieu, here’s the sign from God….

Sign From God

Have a Great Day and SMILE!

1200 Followers!!!

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1200 Followers!!!

It is unbelievable how fast time flies by. I started this blog a little over a year ago. When I first started it, I remember thinking that if I ever reached 100 followers, that that would be an amazing feat…but 1,200? WOW! I say that not out of pride but by humility. I truly am humbled and honored to know that over 1200 people thought enough of my blog to follow it. Thank you everyone!! It is my hope and desire to continue to encourage, motivate and inspire everyone with more “Good Time Stories.”

You Are Important and Matter!

Here are a few things to remember the next time you feel like no one cares about what you do or if you are feeling a little down about yourself:

1. You are important and you matter…

2. Your voice matters…

3. Your feelings matter…

4. Your story matters…

5. Your life matters…

ALWAYS!!

Don’t Be A Crab!

Photo Credit: Alyss via Flickr

Photo Credit: Alyss via Flickr

I decided to share a little bit of my life with you and tell you a short story of a lesson that I learned when I was a kid and still practice it to this day!

I am a born and bred “clam digger”, a “shore boy”, a plain and simple man that grew up and lived at the beach. There was nothing better than going fishing with my brother and dad on the rock jetties by the local inlet trying to catch Fluke, Flounder or some other tasty fish or sitting along the docks of the local boatyards attempting to haul in baby Bluefish.

Fishing wasn’t the only thing that we loved to do. If we weren’t fishing, we were crabbing. There are a few ways that a person can catch crabs: a wire metal crab trap (with some kind of bait in it), a fishing net, or by simply tying a string around some big chunk of meat, sinking it for a while, then, very slowly, pulling up the string and finding a big ole crab munching on the meat. Finally, the captured crab would be put into a container, await its fate, and get ready to “walk the plank” into a big, boiling pot of water.

Believe it or not, there is actually a correct way to keep caught crabs in a container…especially something like a 5 gallon bucket. Once the first crab is caught and put into the bucket, the fisherman has to put something on top of the opening of the bucket otherwise, the crab will jump up, grab the rim of the bucket with its claw, pull itself up and escape. The funny thing is, that once the second crab is caught, the fisherman no longer needs to cover the top of the bucket. Why? BECAUSE EACH CRAB WILL PULL THE OTHER CRAB DOWN…so escape becomes impossible.

My experience crabbing taught me a lesson that I still apply to other people today: DON’T BE A CRAB! Many times in our lives, some people experience hardships, difficulties, and sorrow. Sometimes these people become very depressed, irritable, and surly. They have a tendency to affect the people around them: they can weaken a person’s will, diminish their spirit, and “pull down” their positive outlook of life. Like the first crab that is caught and is holding back other crabs from escaping, sometimes our attitudes can hold back others from becoming the kind of individuals that they want to be.

If you think about it, if the crabs were smart, they would simply allow each other to escape until finally, the last crab could flee. They would encourage each other, work together for the goodness of the whole group.

So…DON’T BE A CRAB! Don’t be the kind of person to hold other people back from becoming the kind of person that they want to be. If you are going through difficult times and experiencing hardships, look to others, your family and friends, for encouragement and support. There is power in numbers…if everyone works together, focuses on the positive and encourages each other, then a person will be able to enjoy their life and live it to the fullest.